Month: March 2019

My Thought for the Day…March 30, 2019…Shine On!

“Well we all shine one, like the moon and the stars and the sun.”
John Lennon

Shine On!

A song for Saturday.

Have a great weekend!

My Thought for the Day…March 29, 2019

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“Every achievement, big or small, begins in your mind.”

Mary Kay Ash

Today’s quote is from Mary Kay Ash, founder of Mary Kay cosmetics. I am personally not a fan of the company as I once was aggressively stalked by a Mary Kay lady. But I do have to admire the woman that in 1963, built an empire offering women never heard of before opportunities to succeed in a male dominated world.

Its gotta start somewhere right? Every great accomplishment begins as an idea, even a stroke of genius sometimes. We all have them from time to time, the question is what do we do with them? Do we have the energy, time, and drive to see them through? I guess that is what sets us apart from Mary Kay Ash, Jeff Bezos, Elon Musk and others like them.

I wonder if Mary Kay Ash could see the future empire she was building, or was she just moving one step at a time and seeing where it took her? Grandiose ideas of a huge empire, in the beginning, can be hugely overwhelming, enough to make you think it is just too large to accomplish. Maybe that is where people get stuck and give up.

I once heard this allegory of driving in the dark, where you can only see 10-15 feet of the road ahead of you, but you have faith the road is there, and of course you make it to your destination, 10-15 feet at a time. Maybe that is how we need to look at implementing our ideas, 10-15 feet at a time?

Have a great Friday!

My Thought for the Day…March 28, 2019

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“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.

It turns what we have into enough, and more.

It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.

It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.”

-Melody Beattie

Today’s quote is a good reminder for me about the effectiveness of gratitude in my life.  When I am feeling down, just the simple act of recognizing something, anything, I am grateful for can begin to turn my attitude around.

Sometimes, when I am very feeling very low, it is hard to see things to be grateful for, but this is just a fallacy in my thinking, a symptom of being down.

There are an infinite amount of things to be grateful for, such as eyes to see and ears to hear, hands to hold, and arms to hug.  And that’s just the tippy tip of the iceberg.  Once I get going, it can become hard to stop!

Before I know it I am not feeling down or sorry for myself anymore and happy again!

Have a great Thursday!

My Thought for the Day…March 27, 2019

“Don’t be distracted by criticism.  Remember~ the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of YOU.”

-Zig Ziglar

Why do some people have to try to make you feel small in order for them to feel big?  I have never understood this, but I am sure we have all experienced it.  You’re riding high, things are going right then BAM, someone takes a swipe at you.

In hindsight, it is easy to see their motive, they are unhappy and want to take down anyone who isn’t.  Out of jealousy, spite, or just plain grouchiness, who really knows.  Whatever the reason, they get some sort of boost out of the interaction, so it’s worth it to them.

In the moment, for me at least, they are usually successful, and I am taken down a notch or 10 depending on the severity of the attack.  In that moment we need to forgive ourselves for allowing this to happen, because you can’t always see such attacks coming and if you were constantly on guard for such things, you’d be a wreck.  Been there, done that, not pretty, believe me.

It is what you do after the attack that matters the most.  Do you mull over it incessantly, or do you pick yourself back up, brush off the assault and go on?

Maybe you actually confront the attacker and ask, “Why did you do that?” and then move on.  You’ve then brought their petty behavior to light by acknowledging it, and that helps you to regain your power.  Then bringing yourself back up and moving on like nothing happened, well, that’s just priceless.

Have a great Wednesday!

My Thought for the Day…March 26, 2019

“Life has no remote.  Get up and change it yourself.”

-Mark A. Cooper

I just love this quote!  I found it by just searching for uplifting quotes on the internet like usual, but became intrigued by, just who is this guy?  Is he a motivational speaker?  Is he an industry magnate?  Turns out, he writes fiction for young adults. This particular quote is from Operation Einstein from the Edelweiss Pirates series which is set during World War II in Nazi Germany.  https://markacooper.com/edelweiss-pirates

I was totally going to buy whatever book this awesome quote came from, until I actually found out what book it actually came from.

In short, Nazis. Freak. Me. Out.

They always have.  Even as a small child, watching The Sound of Music I became terrified when the Nazi part started.  To this day, if I watch it, I turn it off at that part!  Every time I see something Nazi-related (like all Indiana Jones movies) a huge fear in the pit of my stomach rises, and I really can’t explain why.

Sure, their leaders and agenda were evil and sadistic, but I didn’t experience it.  But sometimes, I viscerally feel like it I did.  Sometimes, I think a past life is the only way to explain it.

And does this tie in with yesterday’s post about facing your fears?  Possibly…probably…  Maybe the universe is trying to tell me it is time to conquer this fear once and for all in the safe space of kid’s book.

How scary could that be?

Well, off to buy a book, have a great Tuesday, a transformational Tuesday that is…😉

My Thought for the Day…March 25, 2019

“We gain strength, and courage, and confidence, by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face…

We must do that which we think we cannot.”

-Eleanor Roosevelt

I used to have a mantra, if it scares me, that means I need to do it. But the older I get, the harder it is to remain true to that. The older I get, the more fearful I get. Is it because I have so much more to lose now?

Regardless, fear is usually a barometer, an indicator of what you need to look at in your life. Of course, if a tiger is chasing you, i.e., justifiable fear, run! The kind of fear I am talking about is the nebulous sort of fear deep in the pit of your stomach or heart, the kind that won’t kill you, at least right away. But festering fear goes hand in hand with stress, which will kill you eventually.

The truth is, I have found, a fear conquered is another feather in your cap, where you can proudly say “I did that!” Even if you don’t act on your fears, just looking at them and questioning them is a great start. Sometimes just shining a light on the fear makes it seem much less scary that it previously seemed.

Have a great Monday!

My Thought for the Day…March 23, 2019

“Everybody is a genius.  But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

-Albert Einstein

How many human potentials have been cut short because they were different?  How many great contributions to humanity were never realized for this very reason?  Every child has genius in them, unless it is snuffed out by those who would lack understanding.

In 1983 psychologist Howard Gardner defined 9 different types of intelligence, 9!!  They are:

 

What a wonderful and productive world it will be when our institutions can identify and nurture these intelligences in everybody!

Have a great Saturday!

My Thought for the Day…March 22, 2019

“You can motivate by fear, you can motivate by reward, but both those methods are only temporary.  The only lasting thing is self motivation.”

-Homer Rice

I once worked at company that decided to adopt the strategy of motivation by fear.   It may have seemed effective on the surface, but morale became terribly eroded.  The once friendly and family like environment turned into a tense and uncomfortable place to be.  The fear was palpable.

Everybody was worried about their “number,” it was so bad people, were afraid to hydrate themselves properly throughout the day because going to the bathroom took precious time and impacted the “number.”  Even jobs that weren’t originally so “number” based became all about that elusive number.

Veterans with years of tribal knowledge were no longer valued for their contributions unless they could make their “number,” and even then, they really weren’t valued.  The writing was on the wall, younger, disposable workers were obviously preferred.  Older workers were not.  Some tried to apply out to other jobs and were continually blocked and demoralized into submission, sometimes only for the company to accrue enough “evidence” to finally let them go.

It was, and still is a horrible tragedy and a gross waste of human talent and potential.

I saw the writing on the wall, and I found as time went on, I could not continue to watch and experience this sort of treatment of once valued human beings, who were only viewed as “numbers” now.   So yes, I finally got out, the hope that I would finally be seen again as a valuable employee finally left me altogether.  I decided to go back to school and learn a new skill, web development.  Of course, I still second guess myself, could I have made it work?  But my husband can answer that question for you, he says that I am finally smiling again, I am no longer a bare wire.  That it is so nice that I am not so hyper vigilant with fear and paranoia anymore, that less money is better than living with that again.

So how do you motivate people to work for you, to give you their absolute best?  I am lucky, I also experienced this at that very same company years earlier.  Respect, simple respect is all it takes.  I had bosses that demonstrated just that, bosses who respected our talents and contributions, but also realized as humans we would have our off days, and that was ok, because most days were on.  Bosses I came to respect so much that had they asked me to clean a toilet, I would have, because they were the type of bosses who would never ask you to do something they themselves would not do.

I guess that is my litmus test.  That is the type boss that I would aspire to be, to motivate with pure respect and to not ask my employees to do things I myself wouldn’t be willing to do if necessary.

 

My Thought for the Day…March 21, 2019

“No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.”

-Tony Robbins

This is something I needed to hear today.  I have started on a journey that is taking up a lot of my time and resources, for what it seems on the surface to be very little return.  It is an overwhelming process full of new information to digest and apply, and ultimately, to decide if it is worth continuing.

But, I AM trying.

Have a great Thursday everybody.

 

My Thought for the Day…March 20, 2019

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

-Maya Angelou

I added the part ‘Make them feel valued’, because deep down that is what most people want, to feel valued, to feel that someone else sees their worth.  Simple respect for others because they exist costs you nothing, from janitor to CEO it doesn’t matter, all humans deserve respect and will remember the feeling you left them with.

Have a great Wednesday!