Month: April 2019

What Is a Life Well Lived?…My Thought for the Day…April 29, 2019

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April 29, 2019

“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it.

I want to have lived the width of it as well.”
-Diane Ackerman


What Is a Life Well Lived? 

I love this quote, although I am not entirely sure what it means.  I get a vague feeling of understanding that I can only think is what the author meant by this.  To me, it is definitely a thought-provoking quote.  Anybody can live the length of their life.  Just getting up and doing our daily activities will get us there.

But to live the width of it as well…  I am guessing this means going beyond our daily activities. Choosing to participate in life beyond the daily grind.  Cultivating friendships, hobbies, and interests that have nothing to do with our livelihoods and ambitions.

It is so easy to get the tunnel vision and only see a goal, or where we want to end up.  Or even worse, what is just on our plate today.  Sometimes, that is all we are capable of seeing in order to press on without getting too overwhelmed.  But the truth is, the richness is also in the journey.  The people and experiences along the way.

So, what makes a full life?  There are so many answers to that question.  And only the individual can answer that for themselves. None of us really knows if we will make it to tomorrow.  Are you living just the length of your life?

 

 

 

Go Forth and Make a Difference…My Thought for the Day…April 24, 2019

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April 24, 2019

“There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world:

those who are afraid to try and

those who are afraid you will succeed.”

Ray Goforth


Naysayers

Naysayers.  We all have them in our lives.  You know the ones.  You come to them buoyant with your ideas and they shoot you down and deflate you, for no concrete reason.  The ones who say you can’t make a difference in this world.  The ones who detract you from trying to make a difference.  And don’t even really give you a good reason for it.

Some of these people come from a place of misguided “love” and they shoot you down out of their fears of failure. In their minds, they just want to spare you the pain disappointment. This type of discouragement hurts. But in a weird way, it does come from a place of love, and it is not malicious. Have the strength to say, ‘thank you for your input, but I think I’m still gonna give it a go,’ and walk away.

The other kind is not so easy.  That naysayer that comes from a malicious place.  We all know some of those too!  They are the ones who get a boost when they shoot you down, and probably feel a sick sense of accomplishment from it.  Why do they do it?  There could be a multitude of reasons.  Usually low self-esteem is part of it.  If you succeed, in their minds, you become better than them, and that can’t happen.

They also may be coming from a place of deep unhappiness about their lives and want to drag you down as well.  Either way, it is best to figure out who these types of people are in your life and just steer clear of them.  Hold your dreams and aspirations close to your heart and don’t share them until you have to, hopefully by then you are a success.

Go Forth and Make a Difference!

In the meantime, if you can, surround yourself with supportive people.  But if you can’t, try to fill your life with positive things and steer clear of negativity.  Listen to uplifting podcasts, read uplifting words (like these 😉), and view uplifting media.  As you become a more positive person, you will begin to attract more positive people in your life.  It happens, it just may take some time.

So, go forth and make a difference.  Don’t listen to the naysayers unless they have something truly substantive to say, and they usually don’t.

Doubting Our Abilities…My Thought for the Day…April 22, 2019

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April 22, 2019

“The greater the artist, the greater the doubt.

Perfect confidence is granted to the less talented as a

consolation prize.”

-Robert Hughs


Doubting Our Abilities

Everybody doubts their abilities from time to time, at least, I think.  I am really good at it, always have been.  So, do I take consolation in the above quote?  Not really.  Because I think confidence is 90% of the battle.

It seems confidence without talent, is better than talent without confidence.  Because at least someone with confidence shows up.  What good is your talent if you don’t have the confidence to share it with the world?

At first, I loved this quote, but the more I read it and dissected it, the more I disliked it.  Maybe because I have seen it in action and was left on the sidelines because someone was able to display more confidence than me. In my experience, it is usually confidence that wins over talent.  Confidence you can display immediately, talent and ability, well that just needs to be observed over time.

So, what’s the answer?  What do we do when we are doubting our abilities? Fake the confidence till its real?  Maybe.  Probably.  Keep pushing on, faking it if you have to, and one day that confidence becomes real and warranted.

And no one can take that away from you.

 

 

 

 

The Ripples We Make…My Thought for the Day…April 19, 2019

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April 19, 2019

“If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of.

There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”

– Fred Rogers


The Ripples We Make

So, I received the most wonderful message this morning right when I needed it.  My doubts about this blog have been plaguing me.  Just why am I doing this?  I had a great talk with a friend last night, who was very encouraging and supportive. After, I was feeling better about what am I doing, what I am putting out into the world, the ripples I am making.

Unfortunately, this morning, not so much.  But I made myself sit down with my laptop, to at least give it a shot.  And the most wonderful message came through from my friend, who I had spoken to last night.  She had run out to the store after our conversation and encountered some random person in line ahead of her.   He was talking on the phone and telling his friend that he had to pay for his items with change and hoped that the cashier wouldn’t hate him for it.

My friend overheard and asked the cashier if she could pay for his items.  The random guy was stunned, but when he realized what was happening said “I f*@!ing love people!”  She said she felt that I had built up the positivity in her to do that and she was just paying it forward, like a ripple effect of positivity.  What an amazing act of kindness!

To get this message this morning was just what I needed, and I knew the perfect quote to start with.  Everything we do in life has an impact on the people we meet, on people we may never even dream of, so why not make it a good one?  Not to say you have to buy things for people, unless you are moved to do so at the time of course.

What Ripples Will You Send Out?

A smile, a hello, a simple thank you.  That’s all it takes, and you can flip the experience that someone is having from a negative one to a positive one.  And the feeling you get from this shared positive experience is amazing, it lifts you up as well, and guess what, we all win.  How amazing is that?  Inside of all of us we have to the power to lift each other up and by doing this we lift ourselves up as well.

So make the choice to have a positive impact on those you encounter, and it will ripple out into the world!

Courage to Conquer a Fear…My Thought for the Day…April 17, 2019

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April 17, 2019

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.

– Nelson Mandela


Courage to Conquer a Fear

Everybody has fears, they are a natural part of life.  Fear is our body’s way of trying to keep us safe and not eaten by a lion or shunned by the group that helps us to stay alive.  Fear is hard wired into us.  Unfortunately, fear can get blown out if proportion.

Finding the courage to conquer a fear is no easy task.  Most of us will not find that courage, and that fear will just get avoided and pushed into the backs of our minds until confronted with the fear again.  So, no judgement here, I am just as guilty.  Irrational fears and me go way back!

But finding the courage to conquer a fear is always a victory, no matter how small.  And courage to confront your fears is like a muscle.  The more you exercise it, the stronger and the easier it becomes.  And before you know it, you will have the confidence to confront another fear.

Have a great Wednesday!

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Starting is Hard…My Thought for the Day…April 15, 2019

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April 15, 2019

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.”
-Zig Ziglar


Starting is Hard

Starting is hard.   Every time I sit down to make these posts, I have a hard time getting started. Making the graphic is the easier and more enjoyable part.  I could make these graphics all day, everyday!  But the writing is where I must stretch myself.

Doubts creep in, will I have anything worthwhile to say?  Who am I to be saying such things in the first place? 

But I make myself start typing, the first thing that comes into my head.  And like the pond in the graphic, the one small ripple gains power and strength and makes more ripples.  And somehow, the words come.

Starting anything that has an unknown factor is even harder.  But the idea is the same.   A step in the right direction to get the ball rolling usually leads to more steps and can break our inertia of fear and doubt.

You won’t be great to start, that is for sure.  But like Zig said, you do have to start to be great.

Have a great week!

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Doubts Are a Funny Thing…My Thought for the Day…April 12, 2019

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April 12, 2019

“The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today.”
-Franklin D. Roosevelt


Doubts Are a Funny Thing

Doubts are a funny thing.  One the one hand they are good, serving as a barometer.  Having doubts shows you are questioning and reasoning, working things out, using your mind.  But doubts can also take over all reasonable thinking and cripple us into inaction.  Or worse, cause us to abandon an idea, goal, or project prematurely.

The key is to use the tool of doubt, but not to let it use you.  Easier said than done!  When I have doubts, I find it is helpful to talk them out with a trusted friend.  Getting them out of my head and allowing someone else to help me dissect them is really helpful.   In the absence of a good friend, just writing about them helps to, and helps to clarify what the next steps are.

Doubts are just a red flag our wonderful brains throw up to alert us that we might not have thought something through enough.    Doubts encourage us to explore further, sometimes finding a better path to our goals we had not previously considered.  Doubts also can signal that we are on the wrong path entirely, and that’s ok too.  Use your doubts as a tool, don’t let them use you!

Have a great weekend!

 

 

 

The Company You Keep…My Thought for the Day…April 11, 2019

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April 11, 2019

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.

Small people always do that,

but really great make you feel that you too, can become great.”

Mark Twain


The Company You Keep

Be careful of the company you keep they say. I remember a saying from when I was a kid, ‘you can’t soar like an eagle if hang around with turkeys.’  It was hard to understand then, but I think it basically was what Mark Twain was saying.

Surround yourself with people who support your ambitions, people who support you. Remove the haters and the naysayers from your life, or at least, try to limit your exposure.

When you surround yourself with supportive people who don’t crush your dreams and ambitions, you are more likely to succeed in your endeavors. You gain strength and motivation from these types of people and are encouraged to continue on.

But remember, it is a two-way street, don’t forget to provide encouragement and support back, or you might have to find new company to keep!

Have a great Thursday!

Get Back Up!…My Thought for the Day…April 10, 2019

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April 10, 2019

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.”
Confucius?


Get Back Up!

Although strangely put, this quote kind of says it all.  We’re all going to fall at some time or another, whether we get back up, that is the question.

Like a toddler learning to walk, we repeat this cycle over and over throughout our lives with every new thing we learn or embark on.  We’re all gonna fall a couple of times, it is only natural.

Our greatest glory is in our capacity and willingness to get back up and keep going.

So, a funny sidebar to this quote.  After I uploaded my graphic to the blog, I decided to check the wording of it, because it sounded strange.  I found that Confucius never did say this!

According to Matthew Haywood, Ph.D. Chinese Music, The Chinese University of Hong Kong (2022) explains that

“the quote can be traced back to an English author impersonating a Chinese person quoting a proverb made by the author himself.”

Ha!

Regardless, the idea behind it is still good.

Have a great Wednesday!


My Thought for the Day…April 9, 2019…Attitude is Everything

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April 9, 2019

“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”

Khalil Gibran


Attitude is Everything

Attitude is everything.  A good attitude gets things done, a bad one doesn’t, or does so poorly.  Attitude is a choice, every day we can choose to be upbeat and positive.  Even if we have to fake it until it’s real.

And the funny thing is, it works, and, it can even turn your entire day around.  On the other hand, a bad attitude makes you ‘off’ and is like tripping up the stairs.  You just keep tripping and you can’t seem to get it right.

You can have had the worst morning.  Stubbed your toe, spilled coffee on your shirt, got stuck in traffic.  But if you decide you don’t want to be grouchy all day, you can leave the bad at the door and start to fake a good mood.

Make a point of interacting with people, even if you don’t feel like it.  Before you know it, those events of the morning will have faded and you will be having a better day.

Choose your attitude, don’t let it choose you.  You decide to make it a great day.