“There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world:
those who are afraid to try and
those who are afraid you will succeed.”
Naysayers. We all have them in our lives. You know the ones. You come to them buoyant with your ideas and they shoot you down and deflate you, for no concrete reason. The ones who say you can’t make a difference in this world. The ones who detract you from trying to make a difference. And don’t even really give you a good reason for it.
Some of these people come from a place of misguided “love” and they shoot you down out of their fears of failure. In their minds, they just want to spare you the pain disappointment. This type of discouragement hurts. But in a weird way, it does come from a place of love, and it is not malicious. Have the strength to say, ‘thank you for your input, but I think I’m still gonna give it a go,’ and walk away.
The other kind is not so easy. That naysayer that comes from a malicious place. We all know some of those too! They are the ones who get a boost when they shoot you down, and probably feel a sick sense of accomplishment from it. Why do they do it? There could be a multitude of reasons. Usually low self-esteem is part of it. If you succeed, in their minds, you become better than them, and that can’t happen.
They also may be coming from a place of deep unhappiness about their lives and want to drag you down as well. Either way, it is best to figure out who these types of people are in your life and just steer clear of them. Hold your dreams and aspirations close to your heart and don’t share them until you have to, hopefully by then you are a success.
Go Forth and Make a Difference!
In the meantime, if you can, surround yourself with supportive people. But if you can’t, try to fill your life with positive things and steer clear of negativity. Listen to uplifting podcasts, read uplifting words (like these 😉), and view uplifting media. As you become a more positive person, you will begin to attract more positive people in your life. It happens, it just may take some time.
So, go forth and make a difference. Don’t listen to the naysayers unless they have something truly substantive to say, and they usually don’t.