“You are not responsible for what people think about you. But you are responsible for what you give them to think about you.”
Worrying About What Others Think
This is a great quote by Ritu Ghatourey, who, unfortunately, I can’t find much information about. She supposedly is an Indian author and there are tons of quotes out there attributed to her, but nonetheless, it is a great quote and leaves me much to ponder. Because worrying about what others think has always been a weakness of mine throughout my life, that I have felt I had no control over.
This quote sort of releases me. I can’t change what people think, but I can be more careful in what I give them to think about. This quote also encourages me to censor myself a bit, as I have always been very trusting and open, which has hurt me in the past. Maybe giving too much information that is not really necessary and turned out to be to my detriment in the end.
There is nothing wrong with withholding unnecessary information. I guess that is why they encourage job seekers to craft and master an ‘elevator speech.’ Then you have your appropriate canned answer right there, and you don’t ramble on releasing to much information.
I have always had my qualms about the authenticity of this, but maybe we save our authenticity until we know more about the people we are sharing it with. Or, maybe we just need to be selective with who we share our authentic selves with.
And keep our ‘elevator speech’ for everyone else!