Believe in Yourself…My Thought for the Day…May 15, 2019

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May 15, 2019

“Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you can imagine.”
-Roy T. Bennett


Believe in Yourself

Why is it so hard to be able to believe in yourself and what you are capable of?  I struggle with this daily.  Is it because I am too much in my head?  Do I think too much about how much braver I wish I could be, or where my talents and capabilities might be lacking in this moment?

Most of us will experience a lack of faith in our abilities from time to time.  It is normal and human.  But some of us, myself included, become somewhat paralyzed by this while others can brush it off and move forward.

There is no point in wishing we could be braver.  The only solution is to just be braver.  So, now you might be saying, ‘well, that’s my problem, thanks for your crap solution!’  I guess my point is to get out of your head and just do it, which is cliché but appropriate.

The reason some people can brush off their doubts and fears is because they don’t think about them too much.  The more you think about them, the more weight you give to them, and the harder they are to overcome.   I believe it is called ‘paralysis by analysis.’

Have you ever gone ahead and done something you didn’t think you could do?  Do you remember the amazing feeling after you accomplished it?  Draw on that!  Sometimes we just need to plunge ahead and have faith that all will work out.   And it usually does in one way or another.  Granted not always the way we had hoped, but usually to our benefit in the long run.

 

Opportunities or Obstacles?…My Thought for the Day…May 13, 2019

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May 13, 2019

“If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t, you will see obstacles.”
Wayne Dyer


Opportunities or Obstacles?

It is all about perspective isn’t it?  Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty sort?  Do you see opportunities in your life or obstacles? Of course, it is so much easier said than done.  Our outlook is programmed from birth by life and gets more hard wired the longer we live.

Overcoming a negative attitude can sometimes seem insurmountable, but it can be done.  One piece at a time, one step at a time.  Recognizing it is the first stage, and a hard one at that.  No one wants to believe they are a glass half empty type.  But acknowledgement is the first step. Then taking that negative thought or attitude and consciously turning it around.

This is hard at first and can seem overwhelming, but again, you take it a piece at a time.  It doesn’t happen overnight.  But it does happen.  As you consciously tackle negative thoughts, attitudes and beliefs and turn them around it becomes easier.  Like a muscle, your ability grows.

And before you know it, people will start seeing you as a more positive person.  And life seems to get a bit easier when it is fueled with positivity rather than negativity.  It is like having the wind at your back, the whole way.  And soon, you will be seeing opportunities rather than obstacles!

Appreciating What We Have …My Thought for the Day…May 8, 2019

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May 8, 2019

If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more.
If you look at what you don’t have in life,
you’ll never have enough.
Oprah Winfrey


Appreciating What We Have

It is so easy to get caught up focusing on what we don’t have at the moment without appreciating what we do have.  Wishing for more never really leads to feeling good, at least in my experience!

When I find myself in this state, I really try to focus on what I do have, right here and now.  Clothes to wear, food to eat, a place to lay head.  The fact that I can wash my clothes at my house and don’t have to go to the laundromat anymore.  That is huge for me 😂.

Practicing gratitude for what we already have is also such a great exercise for helping to get out of a slump.  Simply listing all things you are grateful for is really quite powerful and can help you get out of a low mood.  Start with the basics if you have to.  Eyes to see, ears to hear, arms to hug with.  It usually begins to snowball from there.

You will ultimately see just how rich you already are!

 

My Thought for the Day…May 6, 2019

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May 6, 2019

“I slept and I dreamed that life is all joy.

I woke and I saw that life is all service.

I served and I saw that service is joy.”

Khalil Gibran


*this is a repost of Monday, May 6, 2019, somehow it disappeared and I had to repost.  Sorry for the confusion.

Service Is Joy

Service is joy.  How many years did it take me to realize this?  Contemplating this quote made it finally concrete in my mind.  Serving others has always made me feel immensely better than just serving myself.  The simple act of helping someone out.  The joy and thanks received from it. Which ultimately propels me and the recipient higher.  It is a win-win situation if I ever saw one.

I recently watched The Blues Brothers, an old movie from the 80’s again.  It is one of my all-time favorite movies.  It never ceases to lift me up with the amazing music and the quirky story.   So, one particular part, in the beginning, is when John Belushi is at a gospel church and the Reverend (who is played by James Brown no less) is yelling ‘do you see the light?’  ‘Do you see the light!!’ As John Belushi’s character is finally seeing the light by getting the band back together to raise the money to help the orphanage they grew up it.   He sees the way is ultimately service towards others rather than service towards self, or at least that is the message I received from it!

 

So, maybe “service is joy” isn’t true for everyone, but it definitely is for me!  I bet if you think long enough you will see it is probably true for you too.

 

 

Don’t Give It a Second Thought!…My Thought for the Day…May 1, 2019

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May 1, 2019

“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.”
-Henry Ford


Don’t Give It a Second Thought!

Some days it just seems like everything is going wrong.  Like tripping up the stairs, it has a cascading effect.  You miss a step and trip, then you keep tripping.  You lose the smooth rhythm you usually have.  The more you trip, the madder you get, it’s just stairs, right?  Been doing this my whole life, what’s the problem now??  And the funny thing is, the more you try not to trip, you trip!  When you finally get out of your head, well that’s when you seem to be able to resume your normal stair climbing ability.

So, some days it does just seems like everything is going wrong.  But maybe it’s like the stair thing.  If we think about it too much, focus on what’s going wrong, we just keep tripping. Or stubbing our toe.  Or experiencing blocks at every turn. Then we ruminate on why everything is going wrong today and compounding it.  We are out of alignment.

Does the airplane complain about taking off into the wind?  Of course not, it’s a f*$%ing plane😉!  Maybe better put as, does the pilot complain about taking off into the wind?  Of course not, because he knows the plane is fully capable of this and this is how it’s done.  He doesn’t give it a second thought.

Let me repeat that, he doesn’t give it a second thought.  He just plows ahead with the assumption that everything will work out.

You Can Do It!

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The same thing happens to me every time I sit down to write these posts.  I stare at the graphic, read the quote over and over and lament why did I start this 😂?  But then I just get out of my head and start writing the first thing that pops into my mind.  It can always be changed, right?  But that starts the snowball and then somehow, I end up writing a post I am pretty happy with.  It never ceases to amaze, me every time!

So, the next time you find yourself tripping up the proverbial stairs, try to get out of your head and have a little faith!  You can do it!

What Is a Life Well Lived?…My Thought for the Day…April 29, 2019

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April 29, 2019

“I don’t want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it.

I want to have lived the width of it as well.”
-Diane Ackerman


What Is a Life Well Lived? 

I love this quote, although I am not entirely sure what it means.  I get a vague feeling of understanding that I can only think is what the author meant by this.  To me, it is definitely a thought-provoking quote.  Anybody can live the length of their life.  Just getting up and doing our daily activities will get us there.

But to live the width of it as well…  I am guessing this means going beyond our daily activities. Choosing to participate in life beyond the daily grind.  Cultivating friendships, hobbies, and interests that have nothing to do with our livelihoods and ambitions.

It is so easy to get the tunnel vision and only see a goal, or where we want to end up.  Or even worse, what is just on our plate today.  Sometimes, that is all we are capable of seeing in order to press on without getting too overwhelmed.  But the truth is, the richness is also in the journey.  The people and experiences along the way.

So, what makes a full life?  There are so many answers to that question.  And only the individual can answer that for themselves. None of us really knows if we will make it to tomorrow.  Are you living just the length of your life?

 

 

 

Go Forth and Make a Difference…My Thought for the Day…April 24, 2019

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April 24, 2019

“There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world:

those who are afraid to try and

those who are afraid you will succeed.”

Ray Goforth


Naysayers

Naysayers.  We all have them in our lives.  You know the ones.  You come to them buoyant with your ideas and they shoot you down and deflate you, for no concrete reason.  The ones who say you can’t make a difference in this world.  The ones who detract you from trying to make a difference.  And don’t even really give you a good reason for it.

Some of these people come from a place of misguided “love” and they shoot you down out of their fears of failure. In their minds, they just want to spare you the pain disappointment. This type of discouragement hurts. But in a weird way, it does come from a place of love, and it is not malicious. Have the strength to say, ‘thank you for your input, but I think I’m still gonna give it a go,’ and walk away.

The other kind is not so easy.  That naysayer that comes from a malicious place.  We all know some of those too!  They are the ones who get a boost when they shoot you down, and probably feel a sick sense of accomplishment from it.  Why do they do it?  There could be a multitude of reasons.  Usually low self-esteem is part of it.  If you succeed, in their minds, you become better than them, and that can’t happen.

They also may be coming from a place of deep unhappiness about their lives and want to drag you down as well.  Either way, it is best to figure out who these types of people are in your life and just steer clear of them.  Hold your dreams and aspirations close to your heart and don’t share them until you have to, hopefully by then you are a success.

Go Forth and Make a Difference!

In the meantime, if you can, surround yourself with supportive people.  But if you can’t, try to fill your life with positive things and steer clear of negativity.  Listen to uplifting podcasts, read uplifting words (like these 😉), and view uplifting media.  As you become a more positive person, you will begin to attract more positive people in your life.  It happens, it just may take some time.

So, go forth and make a difference.  Don’t listen to the naysayers unless they have something truly substantive to say, and they usually don’t.

Doubting Our Abilities…My Thought for the Day…April 22, 2019

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April 22, 2019

“The greater the artist, the greater the doubt.

Perfect confidence is granted to the less talented as a

consolation prize.”

-Robert Hughs


Doubting Our Abilities

Everybody doubts their abilities from time to time, at least, I think.  I am really good at it, always have been.  So, do I take consolation in the above quote?  Not really.  Because I think confidence is 90% of the battle.

It seems confidence without talent, is better than talent without confidence.  Because at least someone with confidence shows up.  What good is your talent if you don’t have the confidence to share it with the world?

At first, I loved this quote, but the more I read it and dissected it, the more I disliked it.  Maybe because I have seen it in action and was left on the sidelines because someone was able to display more confidence than me. In my experience, it is usually confidence that wins over talent.  Confidence you can display immediately, talent and ability, well that just needs to be observed over time.

So, what’s the answer?  What do we do when we are doubting our abilities? Fake the confidence till its real?  Maybe.  Probably.  Keep pushing on, faking it if you have to, and one day that confidence becomes real and warranted.

And no one can take that away from you.

 

 

 

 

The Ripples We Make…My Thought for the Day…April 19, 2019

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April 19, 2019

“If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of.

There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”

– Fred Rogers


The Ripples We Make

So, I received the most wonderful message this morning right when I needed it.  My doubts about this blog have been plaguing me.  Just why am I doing this?  I had a great talk with a friend last night, who was very encouraging and supportive. After, I was feeling better about what am I doing, what I am putting out into the world, the ripples I am making.

Unfortunately, this morning, not so much.  But I made myself sit down with my laptop, to at least give it a shot.  And the most wonderful message came through from my friend, who I had spoken to last night.  She had run out to the store after our conversation and encountered some random person in line ahead of her.   He was talking on the phone and telling his friend that he had to pay for his items with change and hoped that the cashier wouldn’t hate him for it.

My friend overheard and asked the cashier if she could pay for his items.  The random guy was stunned, but when he realized what was happening said “I f*@!ing love people!”  She said she felt that I had built up the positivity in her to do that and she was just paying it forward, like a ripple effect of positivity.  What an amazing act of kindness!

To get this message this morning was just what I needed, and I knew the perfect quote to start with.  Everything we do in life has an impact on the people we meet, on people we may never even dream of, so why not make it a good one?  Not to say you have to buy things for people, unless you are moved to do so at the time of course.

What Ripples Will You Send Out?

A smile, a hello, a simple thank you.  That’s all it takes, and you can flip the experience that someone is having from a negative one to a positive one.  And the feeling you get from this shared positive experience is amazing, it lifts you up as well, and guess what, we all win.  How amazing is that?  Inside of all of us we have to the power to lift each other up and by doing this we lift ourselves up as well.

So make the choice to have a positive impact on those you encounter, and it will ripple out into the world!

Courage to Conquer a Fear…My Thought for the Day…April 17, 2019

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April 17, 2019

I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.

– Nelson Mandela


Courage to Conquer a Fear

Everybody has fears, they are a natural part of life.  Fear is our body’s way of trying to keep us safe and not eaten by a lion or shunned by the group that helps us to stay alive.  Fear is hard wired into us.  Unfortunately, fear can get blown out if proportion.

Finding the courage to conquer a fear is no easy task.  Most of us will not find that courage, and that fear will just get avoided and pushed into the backs of our minds until confronted with the fear again.  So, no judgement here, I am just as guilty.  Irrational fears and me go way back!

But finding the courage to conquer a fear is always a victory, no matter how small.  And courage to confront your fears is like a muscle.  The more you exercise it, the stronger and the easier it becomes.  And before you know it, you will have the confidence to confront another fear.

Have a great Wednesday!

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