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Believe in Yourself…My Thought for the Day…May 15, 2019

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May 15, 2019

“Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you can imagine.”
-Roy T. Bennett


Believe in Yourself

Why is it so hard to be able to believe in yourself and what you are capable of?  I struggle with this daily.  Is it because I am too much in my head?  Do I think too much about how much braver I wish I could be, or where my talents and capabilities might be lacking in this moment?

Most of us will experience a lack of faith in our abilities from time to time.  It is normal and human.  But some of us, myself included, become somewhat paralyzed by this while others can brush it off and move forward.

There is no point in wishing we could be braver.  The only solution is to just be braver.  So, now you might be saying, ‘well, that’s my problem, thanks for your crap solution!’  I guess my point is to get out of your head and just do it, which is cliché but appropriate.

The reason some people can brush off their doubts and fears is because they don’t think about them too much.  The more you think about them, the more weight you give to them, and the harder they are to overcome.   I believe it is called ‘paralysis by analysis.’

Have you ever gone ahead and done something you didn’t think you could do?  Do you remember the amazing feeling after you accomplished it?  Draw on that!  Sometimes we just need to plunge ahead and have faith that all will work out.   And it usually does in one way or another.  Granted not always the way we had hoped, but usually to our benefit in the long run.

 

Doubting Our Abilities…My Thought for the Day…April 22, 2019

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April 22, 2019

“The greater the artist, the greater the doubt.

Perfect confidence is granted to the less talented as a

consolation prize.”

-Robert Hughs


Doubting Our Abilities

Everybody doubts their abilities from time to time, at least, I think.  I am really good at it, always have been.  So, do I take consolation in the above quote?  Not really.  Because I think confidence is 90% of the battle.

It seems confidence without talent, is better than talent without confidence.  Because at least someone with confidence shows up.  What good is your talent if you don’t have the confidence to share it with the world?

At first, I loved this quote, but the more I read it and dissected it, the more I disliked it.  Maybe because I have seen it in action and was left on the sidelines because someone was able to display more confidence than me. In my experience, it is usually confidence that wins over talent.  Confidence you can display immediately, talent and ability, well that just needs to be observed over time.

So, what’s the answer?  What do we do when we are doubting our abilities? Fake the confidence till its real?  Maybe.  Probably.  Keep pushing on, faking it if you have to, and one day that confidence becomes real and warranted.

And no one can take that away from you.

 

 

 

 

The Ripples We Make…My Thought for the Day…April 19, 2019

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April 19, 2019

“If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of.

There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”

– Fred Rogers


The Ripples We Make

So, I received the most wonderful message this morning right when I needed it.  My doubts about this blog have been plaguing me.  Just why am I doing this?  I had a great talk with a friend last night, who was very encouraging and supportive. After, I was feeling better about what am I doing, what I am putting out into the world, the ripples I am making.

Unfortunately, this morning, not so much.  But I made myself sit down with my laptop, to at least give it a shot.  And the most wonderful message came through from my friend, who I had spoken to last night.  She had run out to the store after our conversation and encountered some random person in line ahead of her.   He was talking on the phone and telling his friend that he had to pay for his items with change and hoped that the cashier wouldn’t hate him for it.

My friend overheard and asked the cashier if she could pay for his items.  The random guy was stunned, but when he realized what was happening said “I f*@!ing love people!”  She said she felt that I had built up the positivity in her to do that and she was just paying it forward, like a ripple effect of positivity.  What an amazing act of kindness!

To get this message this morning was just what I needed, and I knew the perfect quote to start with.  Everything we do in life has an impact on the people we meet, on people we may never even dream of, so why not make it a good one?  Not to say you have to buy things for people, unless you are moved to do so at the time of course.

What Ripples Will You Send Out?

A smile, a hello, a simple thank you.  That’s all it takes, and you can flip the experience that someone is having from a negative one to a positive one.  And the feeling you get from this shared positive experience is amazing, it lifts you up as well, and guess what, we all win.  How amazing is that?  Inside of all of us we have to the power to lift each other up and by doing this we lift ourselves up as well.

So make the choice to have a positive impact on those you encounter, and it will ripple out into the world!

Starting is Hard…My Thought for the Day…April 15, 2019

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April 15, 2019

“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great.”
-Zig Ziglar


Starting is Hard

Starting is hard.   Every time I sit down to make these posts, I have a hard time getting started. Making the graphic is the easier and more enjoyable part.  I could make these graphics all day, everyday!  But the writing is where I must stretch myself.

Doubts creep in, will I have anything worthwhile to say?  Who am I to be saying such things in the first place? 

But I make myself start typing, the first thing that comes into my head.  And like the pond in the graphic, the one small ripple gains power and strength and makes more ripples.  And somehow, the words come.

Starting anything that has an unknown factor is even harder.  But the idea is the same.   A step in the right direction to get the ball rolling usually leads to more steps and can break our inertia of fear and doubt.

You won’t be great to start, that is for sure.  But like Zig said, you do have to start to be great.

Have a great week!

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Doubts Are a Funny Thing…My Thought for the Day…April 12, 2019

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April 12, 2019

“The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today.”
-Franklin D. Roosevelt


Doubts Are a Funny Thing

Doubts are a funny thing.  One the one hand they are good, serving as a barometer.  Having doubts shows you are questioning and reasoning, working things out, using your mind.  But doubts can also take over all reasonable thinking and cripple us into inaction.  Or worse, cause us to abandon an idea, goal, or project prematurely.

The key is to use the tool of doubt, but not to let it use you.  Easier said than done!  When I have doubts, I find it is helpful to talk them out with a trusted friend.  Getting them out of my head and allowing someone else to help me dissect them is really helpful.   In the absence of a good friend, just writing about them helps to, and helps to clarify what the next steps are.

Doubts are just a red flag our wonderful brains throw up to alert us that we might not have thought something through enough.    Doubts encourage us to explore further, sometimes finding a better path to our goals we had not previously considered.  Doubts also can signal that we are on the wrong path entirely, and that’s ok too.  Use your doubts as a tool, don’t let them use you!

Have a great weekend!