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Believe in Yourself…My Thought for the Day…May 15, 2019

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May 15, 2019

“Believe in yourself. You are braver than you think, more talented than you know, and capable of more than you can imagine.”
-Roy T. Bennett


Believe in Yourself

Why is it so hard to be able to believe in yourself and what you are capable of?  I struggle with this daily.  Is it because I am too much in my head?  Do I think too much about how much braver I wish I could be, or where my talents and capabilities might be lacking in this moment?

Most of us will experience a lack of faith in our abilities from time to time.  It is normal and human.  But some of us, myself included, become somewhat paralyzed by this while others can brush it off and move forward.

There is no point in wishing we could be braver.  The only solution is to just be braver.  So, now you might be saying, ‘well, that’s my problem, thanks for your crap solution!’  I guess my point is to get out of your head and just do it, which is cliché but appropriate.

The reason some people can brush off their doubts and fears is because they don’t think about them too much.  The more you think about them, the more weight you give to them, and the harder they are to overcome.   I believe it is called ‘paralysis by analysis.’

Have you ever gone ahead and done something you didn’t think you could do?  Do you remember the amazing feeling after you accomplished it?  Draw on that!  Sometimes we just need to plunge ahead and have faith that all will work out.   And it usually does in one way or another.  Granted not always the way we had hoped, but usually to our benefit in the long run.

 

Go Forth and Make a Difference…My Thought for the Day…April 24, 2019

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April 24, 2019

“There are two types of people who will tell you that you cannot make a difference in this world:

those who are afraid to try and

those who are afraid you will succeed.”

Ray Goforth


Naysayers

Naysayers.  We all have them in our lives.  You know the ones.  You come to them buoyant with your ideas and they shoot you down and deflate you, for no concrete reason.  The ones who say you can’t make a difference in this world.  The ones who detract you from trying to make a difference.  And don’t even really give you a good reason for it.

Some of these people come from a place of misguided “love” and they shoot you down out of their fears of failure. In their minds, they just want to spare you the pain disappointment. This type of discouragement hurts. But in a weird way, it does come from a place of love, and it is not malicious. Have the strength to say, ‘thank you for your input, but I think I’m still gonna give it a go,’ and walk away.

The other kind is not so easy.  That naysayer that comes from a malicious place.  We all know some of those too!  They are the ones who get a boost when they shoot you down, and probably feel a sick sense of accomplishment from it.  Why do they do it?  There could be a multitude of reasons.  Usually low self-esteem is part of it.  If you succeed, in their minds, you become better than them, and that can’t happen.

They also may be coming from a place of deep unhappiness about their lives and want to drag you down as well.  Either way, it is best to figure out who these types of people are in your life and just steer clear of them.  Hold your dreams and aspirations close to your heart and don’t share them until you have to, hopefully by then you are a success.

Go Forth and Make a Difference!

In the meantime, if you can, surround yourself with supportive people.  But if you can’t, try to fill your life with positive things and steer clear of negativity.  Listen to uplifting podcasts, read uplifting words (like these 😉), and view uplifting media.  As you become a more positive person, you will begin to attract more positive people in your life.  It happens, it just may take some time.

So, go forth and make a difference.  Don’t listen to the naysayers unless they have something truly substantive to say, and they usually don’t.

The Ripples We Make…My Thought for the Day…April 19, 2019

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April 19, 2019

“If you could only sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to the people you may never even dream of.

There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”

– Fred Rogers


The Ripples We Make

So, I received the most wonderful message this morning right when I needed it.  My doubts about this blog have been plaguing me.  Just why am I doing this?  I had a great talk with a friend last night, who was very encouraging and supportive. After, I was feeling better about what am I doing, what I am putting out into the world, the ripples I am making.

Unfortunately, this morning, not so much.  But I made myself sit down with my laptop, to at least give it a shot.  And the most wonderful message came through from my friend, who I had spoken to last night.  She had run out to the store after our conversation and encountered some random person in line ahead of her.   He was talking on the phone and telling his friend that he had to pay for his items with change and hoped that the cashier wouldn’t hate him for it.

My friend overheard and asked the cashier if she could pay for his items.  The random guy was stunned, but when he realized what was happening said “I f*@!ing love people!”  She said she felt that I had built up the positivity in her to do that and she was just paying it forward, like a ripple effect of positivity.  What an amazing act of kindness!

To get this message this morning was just what I needed, and I knew the perfect quote to start with.  Everything we do in life has an impact on the people we meet, on people we may never even dream of, so why not make it a good one?  Not to say you have to buy things for people, unless you are moved to do so at the time of course.

What Ripples Will You Send Out?

A smile, a hello, a simple thank you.  That’s all it takes, and you can flip the experience that someone is having from a negative one to a positive one.  And the feeling you get from this shared positive experience is amazing, it lifts you up as well, and guess what, we all win.  How amazing is that?  Inside of all of us we have to the power to lift each other up and by doing this we lift ourselves up as well.

So make the choice to have a positive impact on those you encounter, and it will ripple out into the world!

Doubts Are a Funny Thing…My Thought for the Day…April 12, 2019

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April 12, 2019

“The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today.”
-Franklin D. Roosevelt


Doubts Are a Funny Thing

Doubts are a funny thing.  One the one hand they are good, serving as a barometer.  Having doubts shows you are questioning and reasoning, working things out, using your mind.  But doubts can also take over all reasonable thinking and cripple us into inaction.  Or worse, cause us to abandon an idea, goal, or project prematurely.

The key is to use the tool of doubt, but not to let it use you.  Easier said than done!  When I have doubts, I find it is helpful to talk them out with a trusted friend.  Getting them out of my head and allowing someone else to help me dissect them is really helpful.   In the absence of a good friend, just writing about them helps to, and helps to clarify what the next steps are.

Doubts are just a red flag our wonderful brains throw up to alert us that we might not have thought something through enough.    Doubts encourage us to explore further, sometimes finding a better path to our goals we had not previously considered.  Doubts also can signal that we are on the wrong path entirely, and that’s ok too.  Use your doubts as a tool, don’t let them use you!

Have a great weekend!

 

 

 

The Company You Keep…My Thought for the Day…April 11, 2019

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April 11, 2019

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions.

Small people always do that,

but really great make you feel that you too, can become great.”

Mark Twain


The Company You Keep

Be careful of the company you keep they say. I remember a saying from when I was a kid, ‘you can’t soar like an eagle if hang around with turkeys.’  It was hard to understand then, but I think it basically was what Mark Twain was saying.

Surround yourself with people who support your ambitions, people who support you. Remove the haters and the naysayers from your life, or at least, try to limit your exposure.

When you surround yourself with supportive people who don’t crush your dreams and ambitions, you are more likely to succeed in your endeavors. You gain strength and motivation from these types of people and are encouraged to continue on.

But remember, it is a two-way street, don’t forget to provide encouragement and support back, or you might have to find new company to keep!

Have a great Thursday!

My Thought for the Day…April 8, 2019…Encouragement

“Never discourage anyone…who continually makes progress, no matter how slow.”

Plato


Encouragement

We all learn at different speeds.  Some catch on quickly, others take a bit more time and encouragement but eventually get it.  It may be easy to think that the person that is not catching on as quick just isn’t going to work out, but don’t be so quick to judge.

Ability to catch on quickly doesn’t necessarily equate to work ethic and loyalty.  A lot of times people who catch on quickly also get bored quickly.  The person you encourage and invest more time into to help them succeed will also be more invested in the quality of their work, the job, and the team.

Encouragement costs you nothing and pays dividends in the end.

Have a great week.