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Courage Is a Muscle …My Thought for the Day…May 31, 2019

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May 31, 2019

“We don’t develop courage by being happy every day.  We develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”

Barbara De Angelis


Courage Is a Muscle

Courage is a muscle.  And like any muscle, it needs to be developed and used or it can go flabby.  When we survive a difficult time or challenge adversity, generally we can feel proud of that and it helps to grow our courage.

But what about the not so difficult times?  I have found in my life, as I have settled into my own comfortable routine, that my courage muscle has gone flabby.  Things I once wouldn’t have batted an eye at seem to scare me more now than ever.  I was talking to my sister earlier and lamenting how the older you get the goofier you get, and she agreed!

Challenge the Fear

So, what is the answer?  Well, you can stay afraid and hide in routine and safe pursuits, or you can challenge your fears.  I don’t mean skydiving or bungee jumping, but if that’s what you want to do, more power to you!

I am thinking more baby steps to start.  Identify a small fear you may have, be it going to a crowded store, or driving on the highway.  Then play it out in your mind, like you are actually doing it.  How do you feel?  A little anxious?  That’s ok!  Do you think maybe you could challenge this fear and go for that drive?  How about you set a limit, such as, ‘I will get on the highway and drive, but I will allow myself, no questions asked, to get off at the nearest exit if I need to’.  And see how it goes.  You might find you don’t want to get off, and that driving can be fun.

Either way, be gentle with yourself, the fears are very real.  And every step you take to conquer them are a victory, and should be celebrated as such.  If you can tackle one small fear a day, or every couple of days you will find your courage growing like the muscle it is!  And if not, again, be gentle with yourself, you will when you are ready.

What small fear will you conquer today?

Givers and Takers…My Thought for the Day…May 29, 2019

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May 29, 2019

“My father said there were two kinds of people in the world.  Givers and takers.  The takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.”

-Marlo Thomas


‘Givers’ and ‘Takers’

This quote is by actress Marlo Thomas, the daughter of Danny Thomas.  Who was an actor and the founder of St. Jude’s Children’s Research Hospital.  St. Jude is the patron saint of hopeless causes.  And St. Jude’s Hospital takes all children, with their families NEVER seeing a bill for care, housing or food, because St. Jude’s believes all the family should worry about is helping their child to live.

I remember when I was 9 or 10 doing a fundraiser, through school I am guessing, for this hospital and it just stuck in me.  I have always loved Danny Thomas since then.   And I am sure I didn’t even know the whole story as I do now.  But I think I could sense the goodness and the rightness in it all.  I would say the Thomas’s are definitely ‘givers’!

We all know some ‘takers’ in our lives.  They take without regret and give nothing back.  They take as though they are entitled to take.  I pity them, as they haven’t experienced the immensely wonderful feeling of giving and all that goes with it.

Life is meant to flow; energy is meant to circulate.  Like a convection current where heat rises, cools and then falls back down, only to be heated and rise again.  When you’re a ‘giver’ you experience a similar current, a similar flow.  It almost becomes self-propagating.

When you’re a ‘taker’ you do not, the energy stops with you, there is no ‘paying it forward.’  One day they will see, I am sure of it.  Once you get a taste of truly selfless giving you really can’t go back!


Opportunities or Obstacles?…My Thought for the Day…May 13, 2019

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May 13, 2019

“If you believe it will work out, you’ll see opportunities. If you believe it won’t, you will see obstacles.”
Wayne Dyer


Opportunities or Obstacles?

It is all about perspective isn’t it?  Are you a glass half full or a glass half empty sort?  Do you see opportunities in your life or obstacles? Of course, it is so much easier said than done.  Our outlook is programmed from birth by life and gets more hard wired the longer we live.

Overcoming a negative attitude can sometimes seem insurmountable, but it can be done.  One piece at a time, one step at a time.  Recognizing it is the first stage, and a hard one at that.  No one wants to believe they are a glass half empty type.  But acknowledgement is the first step. Then taking that negative thought or attitude and consciously turning it around.

This is hard at first and can seem overwhelming, but again, you take it a piece at a time.  It doesn’t happen overnight.  But it does happen.  As you consciously tackle negative thoughts, attitudes and beliefs and turn them around it becomes easier.  Like a muscle, your ability grows.

And before you know it, people will start seeing you as a more positive person.  And life seems to get a bit easier when it is fueled with positivity rather than negativity.  It is like having the wind at your back, the whole way.  And soon, you will be seeing opportunities rather than obstacles!

Don’t Give It a Second Thought!…My Thought for the Day…May 1, 2019

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May 1, 2019

“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.”
-Henry Ford


Don’t Give It a Second Thought!

Some days it just seems like everything is going wrong.  Like tripping up the stairs, it has a cascading effect.  You miss a step and trip, then you keep tripping.  You lose the smooth rhythm you usually have.  The more you trip, the madder you get, it’s just stairs, right?  Been doing this my whole life, what’s the problem now??  And the funny thing is, the more you try not to trip, you trip!  When you finally get out of your head, well that’s when you seem to be able to resume your normal stair climbing ability.

So, some days it does just seems like everything is going wrong.  But maybe it’s like the stair thing.  If we think about it too much, focus on what’s going wrong, we just keep tripping. Or stubbing our toe.  Or experiencing blocks at every turn. Then we ruminate on why everything is going wrong today and compounding it.  We are out of alignment.

Does the airplane complain about taking off into the wind?  Of course not, it’s a f*$%ing plane😉!  Maybe better put as, does the pilot complain about taking off into the wind?  Of course not, because he knows the plane is fully capable of this and this is how it’s done.  He doesn’t give it a second thought.

Let me repeat that, he doesn’t give it a second thought.  He just plows ahead with the assumption that everything will work out.

You Can Do It!

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The same thing happens to me every time I sit down to write these posts.  I stare at the graphic, read the quote over and over and lament why did I start this 😂?  But then I just get out of my head and start writing the first thing that pops into my mind.  It can always be changed, right?  But that starts the snowball and then somehow, I end up writing a post I am pretty happy with.  It never ceases to amaze, me every time!

So, the next time you find yourself tripping up the proverbial stairs, try to get out of your head and have a little faith!  You can do it!

My Thought for the Day…April 9, 2019…Attitude is Everything

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April 9, 2019

“Your living is determined not so much by what life brings to you as by the attitude you bring to life; not so much by what happens to you as by the way your mind looks at what happens.”

Khalil Gibran


Attitude is Everything

Attitude is everything.  A good attitude gets things done, a bad one doesn’t, or does so poorly.  Attitude is a choice, every day we can choose to be upbeat and positive.  Even if we have to fake it until it’s real.

And the funny thing is, it works, and, it can even turn your entire day around.  On the other hand, a bad attitude makes you ‘off’ and is like tripping up the stairs.  You just keep tripping and you can’t seem to get it right.

You can have had the worst morning.  Stubbed your toe, spilled coffee on your shirt, got stuck in traffic.  But if you decide you don’t want to be grouchy all day, you can leave the bad at the door and start to fake a good mood.

Make a point of interacting with people, even if you don’t feel like it.  Before you know it, those events of the morning will have faded and you will be having a better day.

Choose your attitude, don’t let it choose you.  You decide to make it a great day.


 

Make It Happen!…My Thought for the Day…April 2, 2019

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April 2, 2019

“Some people want it to happen, some wish it would happen, others make it happen.”

Michael Jordan

Make It Happen!

I am sure this quote describes all of us at one time or another.  We got caught up in wishful thinking:

     “If wishes were fishes we’d all swim in riches.”

and

     “If wishes were horses then beggars would ride,

     If turnips were swords I’d have one by my side.

     If ‘ifs’ and ‘ands’ were pots and pans

    There would be no need for tinker’s hands!”

So how do we make it happen?  That’s an easy one, you just start.  One small action takes you from being a “wisher” to being a “doer.”  You are only one small action away!  And one small action snowballs into 2, 3, 4….

It’s a brand-new day, so make it happen!  Have a great Tuesday.

My Thought for the Day…March 19, 2019

“Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’  Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.”

-George Herbert

I have found personally that it is always better to be doing something than nothing.  When I am doing nothing, that is when the fear and and anxiety creep in.   Doing even one small thing helps to break that mindset, and even better, one small thing usually leads to more small things and before you know it, you are moving again!

Have a great Tuesday!